Friday, January 08, 2016

The problem with the obsession with beauty

In my last blog posts I only focused on the human soul. Of course the soul is most important but you also shouldn’t forget the body. That's why I decided to focus on the human body this time.

There are more than 7 billion humans living around the world in 2016. 7 billion individuals. And most of them are looking different from each other (except twins and so on).

But since several years there is spreading an odd problem, or you perhaps also could call it a disease, around the world. Especially young woman who are living in the industrial countries are infected by it. But in the last years it also reached other countries, older woman and also men!

I call it “The Obsession with Beauty”!

This disease is very dangerous because the infected persons usually don't notice the infection. But in the case you don't notice it and don't fight against it, the disease will destroy your life, your body and even your soul!

Most of you probably already knew the problem with the obsession with beauty. But do you really know this disease? How could normal healthy young women be infected by it so badly? Why are the infected persons acting so strange?

The main aspect of this disease is that all the infected persons want to look different as they are looking like. There are a few role models all over the world and everybody wants to look like them. But why? Did they forget that there are more than 7 billion different looking individuals all over the world? Nearly everybody looks different from each other and this is good so.

Please imagine a world where everybody would be able to look the way he/she wants. Everybody would look perfectly. The problem is that then each woman would look like the other one and the same with the men. What a world would this be where so many identical humans are living? A very boring one! The small differences, the deviations from the perfect look makes the world interesting because then you have many individuals.

The wish to look like another person is natural. But it becomes a big problem if the role models aren't real. Today the role models are only created by the media and the companies. And if someone wants to look like one of these unrealistic role models, she/he never will reach her/his goal and that's why she/he will be always disappointed, sad and so on. But if you feel this way for a lengthy period of time you will become really sick.

The media and the companies didn't create the basic problem: The wish to look different or to look like another person. But they realized that there is such a problem and they wanted to make money with it. That's why they created unrealistic role models. If no one is able to reach the goal, you will keep trying to reach it and you always will buy the products from the companies. The fact that they are destroying lives, isn't important for them. In the last few years some companies realized what they caused and they are trying to use realistic role models now. But till now only very few companies decided to change their way and it will be a long way till the infected persons are healed.

But enough about the media and the companies. What's with the basic problem “The wish to look different or to look like another person”? If you find a way to handle this basic problem, the other one is also fixed.

Why does someone wants to look like another person?
The wish to be someone else is natural. Everybody already thought about being a superhero, a famous person or whatever. And even if you customize and play this role temporarily this is no problem. You know who you are and you only want to have fun or try something new. This is ok. But if you really want to look different as you are looking like, you have a problem. A big problem.

When you were born you don't want to look different. You accepts your body the way it looks like. You love yourself, you love your parents and they love you. Everything is great and you are happy. But then you become older and you are focusing on other persons like friends, mates and so on. These people don't love you only because you are there like your parents do it. But everybody needs love to survive. That's why you have a problem now. You want to become loved by your friends. That's why you have to find a way to reach this goal. There are many possible ways you could try.

Of course there is only one way which really works. First you have to focus on yourself. You have to find out who you are and create an individual personality which could be loved. But this is very hard work and lasts long. Unfortunately most humans are lazy and often very stupid. That's why they usually try other ways first because these ways seem to be easier and faster. But they don't work.

When for example a girl meets a boy and they are interested in each other he usually will tell her that she is looking great. Because the boy doesn't know the girl till now he isn't able to tell something about her character. How I explained above, the girl wants to be loved by the boy. But what could she do now? Of course she could show him what a great character she is and so on. But to show him her personality she had to create one first. And this is hard work. That's why the girl usually will choose the simple way. The boy already told her that she is looking great that's why she will automatically begin to focus on her beauty. She will use make-up, dress nice and so on to get more compliments from the boy. And this is the begin of the problem with the obsession with beauty.

I choose a girl for this example because mainly young women are affected by this problem. But of course you also could exchange the girl through a boy.

Usually you began to focus on your beauty as a teen but nowadays you are confronted with this problem already as a young child because of the media. That's why it's so important that the parents always watch TV together with their children. They can explain and help them to focus on their personality instead of their beauty. But unfortunately many parents don't do this. They use the TV as a simple and cheap possibility to get some “children free” time. That's wrong! That's why also the parents are responsible for the obsession with beauty.

But if you focus on your beauty instead of your personality, you will get big problems. If we continue the example with the girl: What will happen now? The girl focus on her beauty and she will get more compliments from the boy. Because of this she feels something like being loved. But if someone only loves your body, is this real love? I don't think so.

But what will happen after some years? The boy already knows her beauty and he will become bored of it. Or the beauty disappears one day because of the age or an accident? What could the boy love now? Because the girl didn't create an own personality there is nothing left the boy could love. The boy will stop loving her and he will leave her. She will become disappointed and so on.

Usually she will continue focusing on her beauty till this disease destroys her body, her live and her soul. Only if she creates a personality there is something another person is able to love always. The personality will be there forever. The beauty will disappear.

The only way to be loved by another one consists of these four steps:
- Accept your body the way it looks like
- Create your own personality
- Love yourself (body and soul)
- Give love

Only if you love yourself you are able to give love. And only if you give love you are able to feel the real love from others.

But how could you accept your body it looks like when there are so many people in the media or around you which looks better than you?

Are you really sure that these people are looking better than you? Why do you think this?

God (or if you want you also could say nature instead of God) gifted each human an own soul and a body. When you are born your body is already finished. It's perfect the way it's created. But your soul isn't finished. Your job is to form your soul and to take care of your body.

Each body is an individual masterpiece which is different from all the other ones. There is no part from a body you or anyone else could upgrade. But the problem is that everybody always only focus on details for example the hips, the backside, the stomach and so on. They always think that for example the hips from their friends are smaller than their own ones. Maybe this is true. But what's the problem? Everybody looks different. There are persons who have bigger and who have smaller hips than you. You always will find someone who has smaller hips, a straighter nose or whatever. Don't focus on the details! See the whole picture, your whole body! Even if there are persons with other hips, noses and so on, your body as a whole is a masterpiece. Your body was created the way it looks like. All the parts of your body belong together and fit to the rest. And this is good so.

Always remember:
Your body is a masterpiece created by God. Love it and don't try to change it.

I was inspired by Lindsey Stirling to write this blog post. She had problems with the Obsession with Beauty but she mastered it.

This photo shows Lindsey Stirling.
Written by Andreas S. Janke


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  2. nice post and true words (y)
    Obsession with beauty and perfect body is a really big problem in these days...unfortunately people are unteachable... until they fall to the bottom.
    I think that everyone not only her fans should read Lindsey´s book because she knows what she talking about and her story can help them understand what is really important in our lives. Its not about skinny body with tanned skin, perfect hair and branded clothes but mainly about our souls. And how Lindsey said ... No one should be afraid to be themselves.