Fighting against the darkness

Who doesn't know the bad feelings when you are watching a movie or the news and the bad guys are winning against the good guys? Usually the bad ones have all the money, the power, the people and so on. And the good ones only have themselves, their believes, conviction and so on.

I'm sure that all of us already saw or even went through such a situation. Unfortunately those things are reality and happen all over the world day after day.

If you saw or even went through such a terrible situation, you are feeling angry, sad, helpless and much more. You are probably thinking why something like this has to happen or what could you do so that this never will happen again.

A religious person would perhaps answer something like this:
“God is testing you.” or “This is a test of your faith.”

This is true, but this doesn't explain anything and this doesn't really help.

Is there no other way without all these bad things?
Unfortunately not. These bad things have to happen. They are necessary.

Of course it isn't easy to see why they are necessary, but I will try to explain it here.

An important question you have to answer first is:
What is the difference between humans and animals? Are humans only animals or are they more?

Some of you may ask now why this question is important. Trust me. It's very important.

A scientist usually would answer the question this way:
Humans developed from apes. Apes are animals. That's why humans are animals too.

Yes, this is right. But is this everything? Are humans only a special and of course successful form of animals?
No! There is at least one big difference. But what is it? Scientists are searching for it since many years.

I can tell you. The difference between humans and animals is the free will.

Animals don't have the choice to be good or bad. They are only acting completely logic like the nature is doing. They are doing everything so that they or their group will survive or have the best chances. This is everything. Living such a live isn't good or bad. It's neutral.
Animals never would kill another animal for fun. There is no need to do this. This wouldn't be logic. That's why they never would do something like this. But animals also never would risk or even give their life for another unknown creature or even a rival. This also isn't logic.

Some of you perhaps think at animal parents who risk their life for their children. That's true. They are doing this. But this situation is completely different to the one I described. Risking your life for your children or your group is logic. Without children life on earth would end very fast. That's why all parents especially mothers have a genetic predisposition (mother instinct) to protect their children. And risking your life for your group is also logic because the group has better chances to survive then. Sacrifice one individual so that the group consisting of many individuals can survive. This is very simple logic. Humans usually think that this is cruel. But it isn't. This is nature. This is neutral. But what some humans are doing is cruel.

Now you perhaps see that animals aren't good or bad. They are neutral. They don't have the free will or the choice.
But humans have it. They have the choice between the easy or the difficult but right way. This is the most important and I even think the only decision in a human's life. All of us has the free will. We have the great ability to decide whether we want to be good or bad. But having this ability also implicates that humans aren't able to be neutral anymore. No one is completely dark or white and no one is neutral. All of us are gray. Of course some of us have darker and some others have brighter souls.

You will have to make this decision again and again during your life. In the beginning it's easy to change from one side to the other. But the more often you made the decision on the same way the more difficult it is to change it the next time. Your body, brain and soul are trained on the way you are acting. But changing is always possible although it's very hard to become a good person after you did much bad.

Because of this choice you are able to help foreign people. You are even able to help your rival. But you are also able to do very terrible things. Unfortunately it's much easier to take what you want to have than to renounce it. That's why it's no surprise for me that there are so many bad guys all over the world. Why should you choose the difficult way if it looks like that you are able to reach your goal on the easy way too? All of us have to answer this question on his/her own.

But unfortunately this is the consequence of the free will. There is no other possible way. Now you perhaps see that the good isn't able to exist without the bad. They are the two sides of the same coin. If you want that there is the good then automatically there is the bad. But it's your own choice which side you choose. Although there always will be the bad, if no one choose this side of the coin, it has no power.

After you see that the bad is necessary for the good, it perhaps will be easier for you to go through bad times.

But what could you do against such bad guys the news are always telling about? Fighting?

My answer is NO!
Fighting with weapons or something like this never is a solution. If you are fighting this way you have to kill the bad guy in the end. This way you are creating more enemies than you ever will be able to kill.
The other possibility to fight against these guys is going to court or something like this. This would be a possible solution. But what could you achieve? Perhaps you are able to win a battle but never the war. There always will be the bad.

Don't misunderstand me. I don't want to say that you shouldn't do or try this way. If you want to do it, then do it. Doing this isn't bad and perhaps you really achieve something good.

But I think that there is a better way. For this new way you have to change your point of view. Of course the bad guys are doing terrible things and it would be great if there wouldn't be such humans. But I think helping other people and spreading love is much better than fighting against the darkness. Help the people who are treated bad by these bad guys.

That's why always remember:
The darkness is necessary so that the light is able to shine. That's why don't waste your time and energy with fighting against the darkness. Begin to spread your own light.

I was inspired by Lindsey Stirling to write this blog post. She passed very bad times. But she never lost hope and began to spread her own light all over the world.

This photo was taken during the filming of Lindsey Stirling's and Peter Hollens' very funny Star Wars Medley

Written by Andreas S. Janke

Love versus Hate

This time I again want to write about a difficult topic: The well known opposite feelings Love and Hate.

At the beginning I want to ask you two simple questions:
What is love and what is hate?

Everyone probably is able to answer these questions immediately, because these feelings are the most important and strongest ones in our whole life. All of you heard about them or even already felt them.

A few simple answers to these questions are:
Love and hate are two opposite feelings.
Love is responsible for everything what is good and hate is responsible for everything what is bad in this world.

But are the answers to these questions really so simple? I don't think so. Love and hate are more complex than this.

In this blog post I want to explain my thoughts about what love and hate are. I again want to emphasize that the content of this blog post is only my own opinion and that there are certainly many other persons around the world who have other opinions. And this is good so. The world would be a very boring and sad place if everyone would have the same opinion. :-)

Before I'm able to explain my thoughts about love and hate, I have to explain two assumptions which I made.

My first assumption is that everything (the dead world around us, the plants and animals and also the humans) are made of energy. Some of you probably will think that I'm wrong “The world isn't made of energy. It's made of matter.”. Yes you're right. Everything is made of matter. But matter and energy are exactly the same. Matter is only a particular appearance of energy. Albert Einstein proved this.
My second assumption is that each human has a soul which is also made of energy. I know that there is no proof of the human soul till now. Perhaps there never will be a proof. But I believe, I KNOW, that there is a human soul in all of us. These souls are the most powerful but at the same time also the most sensitive objects in the universe. There is nothing similar like them. A human soul is the sum of all your experiences, decisions and so on. It is your personality, the soul are you!

When a human is born, he/she already has a soul, but it's unspecific/unfinished. Only because of the life, all the experiences and particularly because of the decisions which you made during your life, your soul becomes a unique strong individual character.
During a life a soul comes in contact with many other souls. It's connected with them or even with all souls around the world. That's why all of your decisions always impacts other persons you are connected with.

After you know my assumptions now, I'm able to answer the question what love and hate are. First I will potter at the love.

I think, that love is also an energy. But this energy is different from the one the whole world and also the humans are made of. This energy appears because of such a connection between two souls. There are many different kinds of love, for example: the love between the parents and their children, the love between friends, the love between two lovers and also the love for a foreign person who you meet randomly on the road and help him/her.
These are only a few kinds of love. There are many more. But all kinds of love only appear because of a connection between two souls. This love helps people to make the right decision, to help others, even they have a disadvantage because of this. The world only works because there are always people who are doing the right things because of love.
Without love you aren't able to survive. Love is the “food” for your soul. It heals the wounds and gives you the power to pass bad times.

But there is one big problem. When love is created by the connection between two souls, how could you create such a connection?
There is only one solution. Both persons have to be willing to give love, even both of them don't know if the other one will reciprocate this love. It's a risk without any guaranty. Sometimes you have luck and sometimes you have bad luck. No one will ever know this before risking it.

In the case you have luck and the other one is willing to reciprocate your love, a very powerful connection appears between these two souls. Love is born! You could say that love is born because two souls are interacting with each other. This love is the most powerful energy. It is able to heal each wound and gives you all the strength which you need to pass the bad times in your life. There is nothing similar like love.

But in the case the other person isn't willing to reciprocate the love, no connection/interaction appears. This hurts. That's why there are some people who don't risk this any more. They were disappointed too often. But they still want to be loved like all of us. Of course I see their problem but unfortunately there is no other way than risking it again and again. Don't loose hope. Even it will last a very long time till you find a person who deserves your love who will reciprocate the love. The love you will experience then is worth everything.

Unfortunately there are some people who were disappointed too often. These people aren't able to feel the love anymore. And one day they begin to hate all the other people, especially the ones who are still able to feel the love.

There is one important question left: Is hate the opposite energy of love or is it only the absence of love?
My opinion is that hate isn't the opposite energy of love. It's only the absence or the lack of love. Hate is something very bad. And bad things can't survive. Only the good things like love or the souls are able to exist forever.
Some of you perhaps think at all the terrible things which were done because of hate. You perhaps think that you need a powerful energy to do such terrible things. These are interesting thoughts. But take a look at the world around you. There are so many things happening only because of the lack of something for example if there is a lack of food, resources, lifetime, faith, love or whatever. It isn't important if the lack is there because of nature, because of another person who stole something from you or because you are living too high standards. The reason for the lack does not matter.

The lack of something is one of the two most powerful motivators to do something. The other one is love. I even think that the lack of something and the love are the only motivators which exists.

That's why I think that hate is only a feeling because of the lack of love. Perhaps “Love versus Lack” would be the better title for this blog post? :-)

Always remember:
Always live your life open-hearted, no matter how often your love wasn't reciprocated. Don't loose hope and try it again and again. This is the only way to find the persons who deserve your love and to be loved. The alternative, a life without love, can't be worthwhile by no stretch of the imagination.

I was inspired by Lindsey Stirling to write this blog post. Even she passed very bad times and lost her very best friend Jason Gaviati, she never stopped living her life open-hearted. I try to follow Lindsey's example and I hope that there perhaps will be other persons around the world who also will follow her example.

Here you can see Lindsey Stirling, Drew Steen and Jason Gaviati in Australia. The photo was taken 2013.

Written by Andreas S. Janke

The problem with the obsession with beauty

In my last blog posts I only focused on the human soul. Of course the soul is most important but you also shouldn’t forget the body. That's why I decided to focus on the human body this time.

There are more than 7 billion humans living around the world in 2016. 7 billion individuals. And most of them are looking different from each other (except twins and so on).

But since several years there is spreading an odd problem, or you perhaps also could call it a disease, around the world. Especially young woman who are living in the industrial countries are infected by it. But in the last years it also reached other countries, older woman and also men!

I call it “The Obsession with Beauty”!

This disease is very dangerous because the infected persons usually don't notice the infection. But in the case you don't notice it and don't fight against it, the disease will destroy your life, your body and even your soul!

Most of you probably already knew the problem with the obsession with beauty. But do you really know this disease? How could normal healthy young women be infected by it so badly? Why are the infected persons acting so strange?

The main aspect of this disease is that all the infected persons want to look different as they are looking like. There are a few role models all over the world and everybody wants to look like them. But why? Did they forget that there are more than 7 billion different looking individuals all over the world? Nearly everybody looks different from each other and this is good so.

Please imagine a world where everybody would be able to look the way he/she wants. Everybody would look perfectly. The problem is that then each woman would look like the other one and the same with the men. What a world would this be where so many identical humans are living? A very boring one! The small differences, the deviations from the perfect look makes the world interesting because then you have many individuals.

The wish to look like another person is natural. But it becomes a big problem if the role models aren't real. Today the role models are only created by the media and the companies. And if someone wants to look like one of these unrealistic role models, she/he never will reach her/his goal and that's why she/he will be always disappointed, sad and so on. But if you feel this way for a lengthy period of time you will become really sick.

The media and the companies didn't create the basic problem: The wish to look different or to look like another person. But they realized that there is such a problem and they wanted to make money with it. That's why they created unrealistic role models. If no one is able to reach the goal, you will keep trying to reach it and you always will buy the products from the companies. The fact that they are destroying lives, isn't important for them. In the last few years some companies realized what they caused and they are trying to use realistic role models now. But till now only very few companies decided to change their way and it will be a long way till the infected persons are healed.

But enough about the media and the companies. What's with the basic problem “The wish to look different or to look like another person”? If you find a way to handle this basic problem, the other one is also fixed.

Why does someone wants to look like another person?
The wish to be someone else is natural. Everybody already thought about being a superhero, a famous person or whatever. And even if you customize and play this role temporarily this is no problem. You know who you are and you only want to have fun or try something new. This is ok. But if you really want to look different as you are looking like, you have a problem. A big problem.

When you were born you don't want to look different. You accepts your body the way it looks like. You love yourself, you love your parents and they love you. Everything is great and you are happy. But then you become older and you are focusing on other persons like friends, mates and so on. These people don't love you only because you are there like your parents do it. But everybody needs love to survive. That's why you have a problem now. You want to become loved by your friends. That's why you have to find a way to reach this goal. There are many possible ways you could try.

Of course there is only one way which really works. First you have to focus on yourself. You have to find out who you are and create an individual personality which could be loved. But this is very hard work and lasts long. Unfortunately most humans are lazy and often very stupid. That's why they usually try other ways first because these ways seem to be easier and faster. But they don't work.

When for example a girl meets a boy and they are interested in each other he usually will tell her that she is looking great. Because the boy doesn't know the girl till now he isn't able to tell something about her character. How I explained above, the girl wants to be loved by the boy. But what could she do now? Of course she could show him what a great character she is and so on. But to show him her personality she had to create one first. And this is hard work. That's why the girl usually will choose the simple way. The boy already told her that she is looking great that's why she will automatically begin to focus on her beauty. She will use make-up, dress nice and so on to get more compliments from the boy. And this is the begin of the problem with the obsession with beauty.

I choose a girl for this example because mainly young women are affected by this problem. But of course you also could exchange the girl through a boy.

Usually you began to focus on your beauty as a teen but nowadays you are confronted with this problem already as a young child because of the media. That's why it's so important that the parents always watch TV together with their children. They can explain and help them to focus on their personality instead of their beauty. But unfortunately many parents don't do this. They use the TV as a simple and cheap possibility to get some “children free” time. That's wrong! That's why also the parents are responsible for the obsession with beauty.

But if you focus on your beauty instead of your personality, you will get big problems. If we continue the example with the girl: What will happen now? The girl focus on her beauty and she will get more compliments from the boy. Because of this she feels something like being loved. But if someone only loves your body, is this real love? I don't think so.

But what will happen after some years? The boy already knows her beauty and he will become bored of it. Or the beauty disappears one day because of the age or an accident? What could the boy love now? Because the girl didn't create an own personality there is nothing left the boy could love. The boy will stop loving her and he will leave her. She will become disappointed and so on.

Usually she will continue focusing on her beauty till this disease destroys her body, her live and her soul. Only if she creates a personality there is something another person is able to love always. The personality will be there forever. The beauty will disappear.

The only way to be loved by another one consists of these four steps:
- Accept your body the way it looks like
- Create your own personality
- Love yourself (body and soul)
- Give love

Only if you love yourself you are able to give love. And only if you give love you are able to feel the real love from others.

But how could you accept your body it looks like when there are so many people in the media or around you which looks better than you?

Are you really sure that these people are looking better than you? Why do you think this?

God (or if you want you also could say nature instead of God) gifted each human an own soul and a body. When you are born your body is already finished. It's perfect the way it's created. But your soul isn't finished. Your job is to form your soul and to take care of your body.

Each body is an individual masterpiece which is different from all the other ones. There is no part from a body you or anyone else could upgrade. But the problem is that everybody always only focus on details for example the hips, the backside, the stomach and so on. They always think that for example the hips from their friends are smaller than their own ones. Maybe this is true. But what's the problem? Everybody looks different. There are persons who have bigger and who have smaller hips than you. You always will find someone who has smaller hips, a straighter nose or whatever. Don't focus on the details! See the whole picture, your whole body! Even if there are persons with other hips, noses and so on, your body as a whole is a masterpiece. Your body was created the way it looks like. All the parts of your body belong together and fit to the rest. And this is good so.

Always remember:
Your body is a masterpiece created by God. Love it and don't try to change it.

I was inspired by Lindsey Stirling to write this blog post. She had problems with the Obsession with Beauty but she mastered it.

This photo shows Lindsey Stirling.

Written by Andreas S. Janke

How a relationship works

Nowadays everyone already knows that so many relationships don't work for long.

But why?

Of course there are many different reasons for this problem and there are no hard and fast rules to solve it.
But in my mind there is one main reason.

Everyone (women and men) has too much expectations on the partner. 

A usual man hopes that the woman stays the same all her life (body and soul). Even if many men never would admit this or even believe that they also think this way in their inside, unfortunately it is so. The woman's beauty is important for men. I don't want to say that the beauty is the most important aspect for them, but it's important. Unfortunately for some men it's actually the most important aspect, but I don't want to talk about these men here. Men also hope that the woman stays the same in her inside.

But all this isn't possible and I'm glad that it is so. Each human develops (the body and the soul). And this is good. In my mind it would be terrible if the humans wouldn't develop. Everyone would look always the same and they would do the same mistakes again and again. I wouldn't want to live in such a life.

But back to topic. Also women have expectations on the men. They expect nearly the opposite. They hope that their partner will become their dreamboat one day, that he will develop and gets better.

And this is the problem.
Everyone is only focused on the other one but doesn't see his/her own problems/flaws.

Exactly in the moment you expects something from your partner the problems begin. You shouldn't and you don't have the right to expect that the other one stays the same (even if this would be possible) or to become the dreamboat.

For a working relationship you have to accept your partner the way he/she is at the moment and will be in the future.

But this is only the first step on the long way to a working relationship.

The next step is to work on yourself. 

You have to realize that you aren't perfect. You have many flaws which are a problem for your partner. And in the case you want to live in a relationship, I take for granted that you love your partner. If this is so, you certainly don't want to have these flaws which are a problem for your partner. Then work on them! I know that this isn't easy. Unfortunately it's the only way for a working relationship. But stay realistic: You never will resolve all your flaws but you should try your best.

Now you know two very important and in my mind the most important steps for a working relationship.
But there is only one problem left.

How could you find your flaws? 

It is very hard or even impossible to find your flaws on your own. The problem is that noone likes to see his/her own flaws. Everyone prefers to think that he/she is perfect and only the other one has such flaws. But the fact is that noone is perfect and everyone has many flaws. That's why you should talk with your partner as much as possible because he/she is able to see your flaws easier. And I don't think of talks about daily things like what you want to eat for dinner her. I think of real talks about your feelings, wishes, worries, your good and your dark side. I know especially men don't like talking about their feelings and so on. But there is no other way to find your flaws and to develop yourself. That's why talk with each other as much as possible.

I know that all this is very theoretical but I hope that you see what I want to tell you.

This photo shows Lindsey Striling, her family and her crew.

I chose this photo to illustrate that all the things which I exlpained above works in each relationship 

(love relationship, friendship, family and even colleagues)

Please write your comments below.

Written by Andreas S. Janke